我見過許多看似大方的人，但真偽往往難以分辨。人的面具與盔甲有時厚得驚人，需要時間驗證，也需要走進對方的內心世界，才能看見真正的本質。

人需要相處，互動夠深後，才會明白彼此究竟是什麼樣的人。人格特質不是憑空生成，它是由家教、環境、生命經驗與我們遇見的人，一層一層堆疊而成。

慷慨的另一種面向，是助人，一種不求回報、沒有對價的付出。有目的的給予不叫慷慨，那只是投資。

我們每個人都有樂於助人的天性，但要讓這種天性被喚醒，通常需要身教與環境的成全。

「我能給什麼」與「我能得到什麼」是兩條截然不同的道路，也會孕育兩種截然不同的人格。

回頭看看我們如何教育孩子：不小心就掉入「胡蘿蔔與棍子」的模式，用條件交換，用獎品誘惑。

不求回報的善意本來就是人類的天性，只是被複雜的人性與環境扭曲了。

 

最近聽到日本歌手濱崎步的事件，她的行為不只是一種骨氣，也不是風範可以完整概括的。那是一種大氣，也是一種霸氣。

你或許不認為那是大方，但在我眼中，那是一種格局，是心胸與靈魂的尺度。

我曾經從「孤獨與忍耐」的角度談養生，那是因為我深信斷食能翻轉現代人的健康困局。但後來我領悟，那只是小格局的看法。因為養生本質上就是修行。

養生之所以是修行，不是因為要減少慾望，也不是因為要逆風而行，而是因為這本來就是造物主留給人的深層洞見。

我從病痛的眼神裡看見恐懼，也從恐懼的視窗裡看見病痛。你擁抱其中一項，另一項也會潛移默化住進你心裡。

情緒與病痛之間的連動，我們已經懂了，下一步，是理解人格與健康之間更深的關係。

 

人內心住著兩匹狼，而養生到最後，繞不開這兩匹狼的取捨：你選擇與善狼同行，還是任惡狼壯大？

大方，是善狼的其中一種特質。真正的大方背後，其實是一種修養：敬畏。

敬畏天地，敬畏造物主，也敬畏自己的渺小。

先把心中的善狼養好，你自然會讓周遭也被善狼的氣息滋養。

養生不是把自己的身體養好而已，養生是身教，是一種兼善天下的行動。

平和、慈愛、謙遜、慷慨、誠實，這些是善狼的特質。你具備多少？還是你同時也迎合憤怒、貪婪、嫉妒、傲慢與怯懦？

養生涵蓋身與心，而所謂「養心」，不是只照顧情緒，而是培養心境。在這個心境裡，我看見「慷慨」與「大方」作為一種修養的高度。

敬畏與傲慢不會同時存在，慷慨與對價不能同時成立，就像真正的健康與走向病痛的道路永遠不會重疊。

 

（品格，在很大程度上是一種健康的呈現。）

 

Character Determines Health

I have met many people who appear generous, yet their authenticity is often difficult to discern. The masks and armor people wear can be astonishingly thick; only time, and a deeper walk into someone’s inner world, can reveal their true nature.
Human beings need interaction. Only after meaningful encounters do we begin to understand who the other person truly is. Personality is never formed out of thin air—it is layered from upbringing, environment, life experiences, and the people we meet along the way.

Another face of generosity is helping others—giving without expectation, offering without any form of exchange. Giving with an agenda isn’t generosity; it is merely investment.
Every one of us is born with an instinct to help others, but for that instinct to awaken, it often requires the support of role models and the right environment.
“I can give” and “I can get” are two completely different paths, and they cultivate two entirely different kinds of people.

Think of how we educate children: it is all too easy to fall into the pattern of “carrots and sticks,” using conditions and rewards as bargaining chips.
Yet, the pure goodwill that seeks no return is a human instinct—one distorted only by the complexities of personality and circumstance.

Recently, I heard about the Japanese singer Ayumi Hamasaki’s situation. Her action was more than resolve, more than style or composure. It was an expression of largeness—of spirit, of stature.
You may not define it as generosity, but to me, it reflected a kind of breadth, a measurement of both heart and soul.

I once explained wellness through the lenses of “solitude and endurance,” because I believed fasting could overturn modern society’s health dilemmas. But eventually I realized: that view was too small.
Health cultivation is, at its core, a form of spiritual practice—not because it suppresses desire, nor because it forces us to go against the current, but because it carries a depth of insight bestowed by the Creator.

I have seen fear within the eyes of illness, and I have seen illness through the window of fear. Embrace one, and the other quietly takes root in your heart.
We already understand the link between emotion and illness. The next step is to understand the deeper connection between character and health.

Inside each person live two wolves, and in the end, wellness cannot avoid the choice between them: will you walk with the good wolf, or allow the evil wolf to grow?
Generosity is one of the good wolf’s qualities. Behind true generosity lies a deeper refinement: reverence.
Reverence for heaven and earth, reverence for the Creator, and reverence for one’s own smallness.

Nurture the good wolf within, and its breath will naturally nourish the world around you.
Wellness is not merely about maintaining one’s physical condition; wellness is lived teaching—it is an act that benefits the world.

Peace, compassion, humility, generosity, honesty—these are the traits of the good wolf.
How many of them do you embody?
Or do you also find yourself engaging with anger, greed, jealousy, arrogance, or cowardice?

Wellness encompasses both body and heart. And the so-called “nourishing of the heart” is not merely tending to emotions, but cultivating a state of mind.
Within that state, I see generosity and largeness of spirit as expressions of true refinement.

Reverence and arrogance cannot coexist. Generosity and transaction cannot coexist.
Just as genuine health can never overlap with the path that leads toward illness.